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Old 09-29-2008, 03:09 PM
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Default Is it a big deal when a guy asks you to spend the night?

I was on summer vacation at my god sister's house and I really hit it off with one of her friends at a little get together at her boyfriend's house. We hooked up that night, totally wasted and that was the end of it. Or so I thought. Next night, same thing, he was at the same party but we didn't hook up, but he asked for my number.... and get this, actually called the next day. So eventually we ran into each other a few nights later at another get together and he asked if I wanted to come to him place and chill, so we did and hooked up again. He called the next day and asked if I wanted to sleep over. I said ok, thinking I'm on vacation and it's not a big deal. (BTW- he lives with his mom) SO now I'm moving to the same town he lives in because I'm moving in with my god-sister and now I'm hoping it might have been more than a fling. I mean, since I went home we text at least once or twice a week and keep in touch. I told him I was moving up there and he seemed excited (or worried; it's hard to tell through texting).

Any advice? Is taking a girl home to spend a night (or two) at your house a big deal?

Also, I should add that he got in a little big of trouble for having me over but it all worked out ok. I asked if this happened a lot and he said no, not often and he's usually dating the girl....
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Old 09-29-2008, 03:16 PM
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Default Is it a big deal when a guy asks you to spend the night?

I think it should be a "big deal" to you.

He using you - for sex.

If that is what you want for your life, keep moving in that direction. Let me mention the possibilities: like, you get pregnant and he doesn't care; even denies it has anything to do with him. Really, you "hooked up" (I thought that was what dogs did) with him without much urging , so why would he not think you do that with everyone?

Please get a grip on reality and do something to increase your sense of self worth. Surely you have more to give to the world than easy sex.
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Old 09-29-2008, 03:23 PM
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Default Is it a big deal when a guy asks you to spend the night?

Yeah hate to break it to you, but you gave it all up. Now its not fun anymore. No guy wants a girl who gives it up right away, they like to chase it and work for it. You might like him but honestly he was just using you for sex. I bet when you move back down there hes probably not going to have anything to do with you.
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Old 09-29-2008, 03:30 PM
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Default Is it a big deal when a guy asks you to spend the night?

Well it is for him. because he will end up haveing sex with you. But as for you , it might not seem like a big deal. To guys its an open invitation, for sex. Unless you have already done it. But if your of legal age, it shouldn't matter none.
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Old 09-29-2008, 03:37 PM
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Default Is it a big deal when a guy asks you to spend the night?

I would go with the flow when you got there. You can also choose to have the "talk" if you like. That way you will know for sure. Sounds like you two get along well, so at worst you will have a friend with benefits, and maybe more.
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